The abuse came from a family member
As stories about sexual abuse in football come to light, a former England player opens up in public about past episodes of sexual abuse from a family member. At the moment Kieron Dyer is preparing to publish his autobiography ‘Old too soon, Smart too late: My Story’. As he demonstrates some interesting extracts from the book, he mentions this horrible experience that affected him throughout his whole life.
“I woke up but I was scared to open my eyes. Kenny had slipped his hand down my trousers while I was asleep and he was fondling me,” Dyer told the Daily Mail.
“I froze. I was petrified. I didn’t know what to do. Kenny must have sensed that I’d woken up because he started shushing me and trying to reassure me.
“He kept asking me to let him finish what he was doing. It was like he was in a trance. He said he’d buy me loads of chocolate. He pulled my trousers all the way down to my ankles.
“I knew he was doing something terribly wrong but I was frozen. I couldn’t move. I couldn’t speak. I couldn’t do anything.
“Then he bent his head down into my lap and started trying to perform oral sex on me. I was still terrified. You know when you have one of those nightmares when you can’t scream? It was like that.
“Eventually, I managed to push him away. I pulled my trousers back up. ‘Don’t tell anyone’ he said. ‘This is our secret’.”
Moreover, Dyer continues to say that it was only in 2011 that he decided to confess this episode that happened in his younger life. The former Newcastle and Ipswich midfielder spoke to Sporting Chance clinic. But unfortunately it was late for him.
“I was unaware of the person I had become. I thought my stubbornness, not letting people in, going through mood swings, were all just natural aspects of my character,” he continued.
“I thought that was who I was. I didn’t realise it was the abuse that formed the person I became. I didn’t recognise what I was doing. I owe a great deal to [teammate at the time] Joey Barton and [Sporting Chance’s] Peter Kay.
“I know that others have suffered terribly because similar things – and worse – have happened to them. I know that some have felt so much despair and hopelessness that they have taken their own lives. I’m not sure why that didn’t happen to me.
“I think maybe it was that every time I played football, that was the way to forget the pain and the abuse.”
Now that Dyer is a retired player, he coaches the Under 16 team at Ipswich Town.